While reading my blog, my wife said, ” It’s missing something.”
“What is it?” I responded.
“You have no mention of Natalie” was the rejoinder.
True, I admitted to myself. I started it out more as a blog by me, just to write about topics that came to mind. So here’s my post about her. We welcomed her last year and she’s been occupying most of our attention and almost all of our energies during our spare time.
When friends or my mom tell me” She’s so cute!”. I tend to deadpan with the response “Cuteness has a price”.
But when I really think about it, I think we have it easy. She’s pretty low maintenance, smart (she figures things out pretty quickly) and she rarely goes into tantrums. We love her to death but there are days where things feel stretched and we’re just happy to get her to bed so that we can wind down.
That’s not to say that bringing up a kid is easy. The first six months were a blur of exhaustion and activity. The round the clock feedings, the diaper changes, the doctor visits, the change in your free time can really be change the dynamics of your relationship with your spouse and are serious game changers to your “world”.
But we’re rewarded daily, just seeing her develop and if its really possible, get cuter everyday. It’s such a huge responsibility, to bring up a kid. We look around us and see kids hanging out at malls, coffee shops probably skipping class, wasting their life and looking lost while life passes them by. I probably would have done the same thing except that in Singapore, if you did that as a kid, you would bring shame to your family in no time with your plummeting grades. Asia has one thing right; its focus on education (though this can go overboard). For me, I am competitive in nature and at some point, I treated it like a game that I’d play to score points and be measured so everything began to click.
Life is tough, and adult life nowadays is a pretty competitive landscape and we wonder if we can bring her up the right way. The right way? What’s that you ask? I currently have that summarized as the end goal being a responsible and contributing member of society, who is wise enough to know what really matters in life . Too often kids nowadays appear to be chasing the latest fad, star, icon, trend that in the end is a hollow quest to fulfill some unseen need.
So here’s to Natalie, our first kid. Hopefully when she reads this at some point of her life, it’ll bring a smile and a surge of emotion to know how much we love her.